They think they are.
But they really aren’t.
Are you monogamous
If yes why?
What is monogamy anyway?
When I say that 99.9% of people are not monogamous, I mean that most people define monogamy as simple “not be with other people. “
I go way beyond that.
I’I coined the term “conscious monogamy ”to describe when a couple is really emotionally and physically committed to each other.
There are no secret lives, no piles of white lies, no “Don’t ask don’t tell ”conversations.
You show up fully. Emotionally and sexually.
You are naked, raw, vulnerable and completely exposed.
You go deep, you are vulnerable and you reveal the wildest and softest parts of your heart.
You give your partner everything you do’have received.
You show up in bed.
They allow themselves to be naked and raw and to surrender.
You open up to them emotionally. You pull down your walls, let yourself be penetrated and seen.
According to this definition:
99.9% of people attract’I do not have that.
You hold back. They’re hiding.
You may not be familiar with other people.
But they certainly aren’t’not be intimate – sexually or emotionally – with one another.
Be honest. Do you have that?
Are you completely open, devoted, and honest with your partner? Let go of your guard and let all your soft and raw spots rise to the surface? Are your heart and genitals exposed?
True monogamy for me is a deep, powerful, devoted, catastrophic, sexual, and emotional connection.
The’s what drives you into a quantum leap dimension in your life.
That makes your relationship your superpower.
And make you a superpower couple.
But as I said: Hardly anyone has that, nor does he know how to do it.
Most relationships are superficial.
For sure. They are tacit agreements not to disturb the status quo.
They rely on “don’t ask, don’t tell” and mountains of white lies.
They consist of five minute encounters and stealth porn habits.
The’It’s not monogamy.
The’s is hiding.
Then it becomes easy to say: “Oh, not monogamy’I do not work. “Or” were people’I didn’t want to be monogamous. “
I agree – the kind of “Most people do not have pseudo-monogamy’t work.
It’sa relationship based on dishonesty and an implied agreement to live a lie.
But conscious monogamy works better than anything else I’ve ever seen.
Maryanne has been married for 19 years.
By their own knowledge, it was the first decade of their relationship “not monogamous “.
That said, they had the kind of pseudomonogamy that most people have.
They shared parts of themselves, but not all.
They had a decent sex life, but not great.
They had sex for 10 minutes, but not 3 hours.
They felt “in love” but not “in love”.
Then she found me.
She threw herself into my work, listening to every single podcast and video I’d ever made, and then shared them with her husband.
Then both threw themselves into my work.
Now their lives are full of deep honesty, soaked sheets, cervical orgasms, ecstatic births, and careers that reflect their true Dharma.
The trademarks of superpower couples.
You can use this connection and energy to fuel any part of your life.
All of this puts you in another dimension, another category of relationships that fewer than 0.1% of the population have.
That is my definition of monogamy – conscious monogamy.
It’s a rare and beautiful thing.
Kim Anami is a holistic sex + relationship trainer and vaginal weightlifter who is here to add more passion to your life and bed. Listen to their acclaimed Orgasmic Enlightenment podcast, watch their sex education videos on YouTube, and experience their online life changing programs on kimanami.com.
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